How confident do you need? how lack of confidence shown ? Less when we note that confidence in each train to be from a young age. Help children more confident, parents need to understand the causes and manifestations of low self-esteem in children and the basic method to nourish, develop self-confidence for children.
Confidence is our feeling about ourselves and how our attitudes will clearly reflect this feeling. Confidence are important factors determine success in life. Help children develop confidence is extremely important for happiness and success of children and teens.
Confidence and low self-esteem of children is revealed more clearly than when they join a new environment, where the nursery school is the time we most recognizable.
Children often do not lack the confidence to try something new and they complain about other people when the difficulty itself. They also do not want anything and feel lukewarm, eagles of the facts, phenomena. Especially we do not have the ability to withstand the loss in trade, although only small things. Since then, they usually lower the ability of themselves and are easily affected by others.
During the formation and development of confidence in children, parents have an important role leading.
1. Let’s start telling children encouraging words every day
When you feel happy about tell young children know it. Parents often very quickly manifested negative attitudes to young children when damage but do not know how to express a positive attitude to the child when the child do something praiseworthy.
Often, children do not know when you feel happy about them. We also need to hear you say that you are very happy to have them in the family. Children will remember these words of love that you speak with them. Words he works as children more confident and always to remember them.
2. Do not save words praised
Do not hesitate to speak with children on a regular basis to praise even before all members of family or friends.
3. Teaching children speak positive words to yourself
Self-talk to yourself is a very important part of what we do. Psychologists have shown negative words will come with the expression worry, depression. What we think will reflect what we feel and we expressed how attitudes. Thus, a very important teaching for children with a positive attitude to myself by saying positive words to yourself.
One of the requirements for parents is to avoid saying “No” to the children that should say “not yet”. For example when the assigned child, if a child afraid to say “I can’t do” the parent should say, “You do not this work now” to give children an opportunity to overcome challenges.
4. Avoid criticism style ridicule or lower child
Sometimes we also need to review the actions of children, and parents are the best person to do this. But when parents criticize children are angry right now will be easy to say these words to see their children being ridiculed or lower. It is important that you learn to say “Father / mother see that” instead of saying, “You can see” when criticize. For example, the “father / mother to baby clothes and store ratings in the cabinets (or drawers) of the neat and not thrown around indiscriminately room” rather than saying “Why do you lazy and slipshod ? Can you can take for myself ? “.
5. Help children formed discipline
All children and teens need to know are responsible for their acts. We should be learning self-discipline. To help children and youth self-discipline, parents need to make as guidance rather than the observance of discipline and punishment. There are three principles of discipline for parents that is fair, uncompromising and friendly.
Once established discipline, children will have a favorable environment for formation and accretion confidence.
6. Do not underestimate the ability of children
7. Need help children recognize the situation
Parents with their own experience to recognize the situation, context and environment in which the children themselves and the context in which children expressed the shy, passive and dependent children the opportunity to train confidence. By confidence is formed from the acceptance, willing to cope with difficulties, and make the social skills.
8. Become a good example
Children learn a lot from the parents so that the image of adults is important in the lives of children. Actions and gestures of parents affect children growth. Parents need is a shining example for children to learn.